I really got into the quizzes that members could take. Ok Cupid prides themselves on the ability to match people based on responses to their surveys.They have a decent algorithm as I found myself conversing with smart, funny and attractive women regularly. There wasn’t much competition — that is, not many other guys were using it when I was.You will pursue it because you want to see if maybe, just maybe, you’re in a higher league than you thought. The minute you decide to overlook their clownery, you become complicit in it and encourage them to continue this charade with other unsuspecting people. But the ones who don’t even fill out their profiles?
When she was using OK Cupid here in Manhattan, she was emailed by a guy we’ll call Jay. On that date, Jay confessed that he didn’t give Kim his real last name.
Concerned, Kim went home and paid for a background check on Jay.
He told her he understood, but came back around a couple weeks later asking for a second chance. Their second date, Jay forgot his wallet and paid for their drinks with a $100 bill. This was during the time that he claimed he was working on a film here in NYC with a well known, Oscar winning actor. He was an extremely attractive man using a free online dating site. A few of you will say that you consider yourself to be very attractive and use that site too. Women replied to him despite having nothing on his profile other than some vanity shots.
They continued to date a handful more times before Jay disappeared on her. I explained that the Jays of the online dating world contact anyone and work them the same way he worked her. Congrats for hitting the genetic lotto and thank you for sharing. The people who feel that they are above following understood and accepted or even stated guidelines are displaying arrogance, laziness and a lack of genuine interest in the process as a whole. Here was Kim, an intelligent, educated, attractive woman who worked for a government agency that specializes in sniffing out threats. This guy dropped his bait into the sea of online dating with the intention of meeting a woman that he could con into paying his way. Those men and women will get dates and find the saps that they seek.
As a result, they destroyed the network of decent matches.
I don’t know of any other guys who actually took the surveys on there (like I did eagerly); I also know few women who took the surveys for more than a dozen questions.Eventually as more and more men (late majority) joined the site, I observed two problems.First, was the women became less trusting, less open and much more selective in who they even talk to.But I am a guy who is fond of online dating sites, so I have a few tips that might help you when using them.Perhaps my perspective here might help you when seeking your next mate on there (or not). I turned 19 and I was good with finding and meeting prospective dates on there.Dating sites like Ok Cupid and Plenty of Fish (POF) became more popular.