This book will tell you what women say they need and want from us-but it will also explain it, and, most importantly, apply it in the "language of men," which is: * Logical and concrete rather than abstract and inconclusive.* Constructive and compelling rather than critical and condemning.Men do that best when they are sure they know the answer to this fundamental question: "What exactly does she want and need from me?
Harvin, Bronx, NY No, this is not "one of those books." Contrary to what images a quick glance at the title may stir, THE BOOK YOU ARE NOW HOLDING IS DEFINITELY NOT ABOUT: * How to pick up Black women, anywhere, anytime, or * How to satisfy Black women in bed, and keep them coming back for more, or * How to keep the Black woman in your life from ever getting mad at you, or * How to "score points" and get anything you want from a Black woman.
Loving Black women with wisdom, sensitivity, and skillfulness is what this book is all about. It's a profoundly appealing job and one that many of us take quite seriously. And as is the case with any job you are working to excel at, discovering ways to do it even more capably, and to get even greater results, is the goal.
Women have not always known exactly how to get their points across to their men, with the kind of directness and clarity that helps unlock our highest intentions and our most determined efforts.
We hear them, but we can't swear we always understand what they want, why they want it, and what they want us to do about it.
And when you are armed with clear answers, deeper satisfaction in love is available to both of you.
When I say "love," I'm talking about a balanced and deliberate commitment to another person, one that is demonstrated by action.I find them to be, like me, men who already love Black women and who have every intention of continuing to.Theyareboth married and single men, brash but sincere young upstarts, and brothers who have been on the job for much longer than a hot minute.They continue to feel honored by the admiration, respect, and support that their women have lavished upon them.And they are men who are still wholly committed to contributing powerfully and meaningfully to her life as well.What they have in common is that they have become tired of all the drama that surrounds Black male-female relationships -the finger-pointing back and forth, the mistrust and hostility that divides us along gender lines, and, of course, the statistics that are constantly trotted out to dramatize the hopeless state of affairs that supposedly exists between Black men and women.