She’s the one for me.”--Samson (Judges 14:1-3) 13) Kill any husband and take HIS wife. We also have the clear biblical command that a Christian is free to marry whomever he or she chooses, so long as the prospective mate is "in the Lord" (1 Cor. But in the end, choosing a spouse calls for wisdom. Make up for quality with quantity.--Solomon (1 Kings 11:1-3) 16) A wife?Perhaps you've seen this list floating around the world-wide-web, but it's worth reviewing because it makes a very important point. -13) 2) “Lay hold on” a virgin who is not betrothed to another man, and "know" her, but afterwards pay her father a sum of money. When the women come out to dance, grab one and carry her off to be your wife.--Benjaminites (Judges -25) 7) Have God create a wife for you while you sleep. -24) 8) Agree to work seven years in exchange for a woman’s hand in marriage. Then work another seven years for the woman you wanted to marry in the first place. ) 10) Even if no one is out there, just wander around a bit and you’ll definitely find someone.--Cain (Gen. The Bible has more to say about arranged marriages, for example, than it does "courtship" or dating. We have to realize that the Bible does not speak to every issue we will face in life.
But then the question must be asked – what is the lasting moral law here in Exodus -17 and what is the temporary civil law that applied only to Israel as a theocracy?
There are two moral law parts in this passage and one civil law part in this passage.
One key word in this passage as it relates to the “does premarital sex exist” debate is the word “endow”.
This occurs AFTER the man has seduced the woman into having sex with him and BEFORE she actually becomes his wife (is married to her).
I once walked in on one of my office mates in grad school--he was a Christian training for the ministry in Japan.
He was intently reading a file; it looked like a personnel file. He told me it was a file on a young woman that his father had sent him.This was a civil punishment as part of the law given to Israel a theocracy and the New Testament tells us that God’s Old covenant law with Israel a theocracy has been replaced by the new covenant that God has made with the Church(Hebrews ) This leads us to the second Biblical method of a man and woman entering into marriage.We see this situation occurring with Ruth who approached Boaz to see if he wished to marry her in Ruth 3:9.The word Hebrew word that “endow” is translating is Mahar which means “ In this passage God was saying that if a man seduced a virgin who was not betrothed to another man and he had sex with her that he had to pay her father the bride price and her father would decide if he would allow the man to marry his daughter.The father had the power to refuse him even after the man seduced his daughter but he still had to pay the bride price because he violated the father’s property rights regarding his daughter.I know you might be scratching your head right now asking “Isn’t premarital sex and pre-wedding sex the same thing?