If you are confident, self-aware, have a high emotional IQ, a low tolerance for being mistreated and understand the opposite sex, you’re going to do well in relationships.
Baggage has a lot more faces than merely having children with another man, and they find out harshly that the childless woman may be a big baby herself, looking for a “daddy” to buy her things.
So men accept the fact that dating women of a certain age will result in children being almost a certainty, so they either date 19 yr old girls, or own up to the reality that their dating prospects will come with a child. This sounds mad young to me, like something my nightmare of a 22 yr. Yet this comment right here is the leading excuse from women as to why they won’t give single dad a chance.
Dating with children changes the rules of the game entirely. As a single person without children you are open to possibilities, open to long distance relationships even, but when the kids are around then we have to change our mindset to realizing that we are Teflon until the kids are out of the house, that the Brady Bunch was just a fantasy TV sitcom, and that living a life of dating without the kids makes us live two lives, one with kids and one without.
Soon enough you’re going to resent one of them, if not both, and the idea of bringing your children along for dates is not really something acceptable.
Single dads I want to hear from you about this bull…
are you restricted to dating single moms now, or have you had any luck with childless 30 woman?
Perhaps you can recommend a different resource…or you can explain how your comments apply when it comes to dating with children.
Joy, Thanks for your email, as it reveals both some truths and blind spots.
So you can talk about what your dating life as a single man was like –you wanted a woman who you could have children with, so you probably didn’t date women with children and if you did you soon found out that they needed to be thrown back.