This means that he's likely to resort to some devious behavior with you if the two of you encounter relationship problems.3. Having to keep your relationship a secret can attack your self-esteem and cause you to miss out on one of the wonderful aspects of a relationship.Walking together freely and radiantly through the world can fill you with the glow of being with someone who is proud to be with you.4. He has a legitimate married relationship that helps his public persona and he has an illegitimate one with you to make up for what heâs missing in his marriage.
The nice thing about dating someone casually and not actually being in a relationship is that you have the right to ghost anyone who hasn’t fulfilled their promises.
If he hasn’t called you, or text you to plan another date then let him go.
And the truth is, I don’t know why you’re attracted to them. Maybe the nice, stable, available partner also leaves you feeling scared and vulnerable.
But in the end, the why doesn’t matter all that much. Become uber aware The first step to ending your pattern is to catch it.
Human nature finds it easier to blame than to accept shame.
If he is caught by his wife or conscience, don't be surprised if he tries to blame you and get you to take the fall.10. Ever notice how quickly the years go as you get older?
So the earlier you notice the pattern starting, the better your chances of stepping in and interrupting it.
To catch it early you have to be awake, aware, and uber conscious.
If it’s what you “find yourself” doing when you haven’t thought about your options or made a conscious decision, it’s a pattern in action.