Our afternoon of fun turned into a night out and me, my friend, J, and his friend bar-hopped, talked, laughed, danced, and played pool until the wee hours.
I kept it cool and acted like him not calling didn’t bother me in the least.
Without prompting, he said: “I’m so sorry I didn’t call.
People who avoid the answer with "It's a surprise" or "We'll see" are not respecting your right to feel safe.
If you are out with your new friend and things are going well, don't extend the evening past the agreed upon time. You have to realize that the person you are out with may have plans tomorrow that they need to get sleep for. If things are going well, and you part ways at the agreed upon time, then logic dictates that the person who you went on a date with will want to see more of you. If the person you are out with wants to extend the time, cite work or school as a reason you have to go for, but make it clear that you do want to see them again.
You meet, you hit it off, you get really excited because you’ve finally found a great guy, and after that…silence.
Once you’ve hit day 4 all hope dissipates and you must sadly accept the fact that you will never be hearing from him.But if you want to, um, then yeah, sure okay I guess I mean if you want to” “Okay, cool, do you wanna just swing my my apartment and then we can head out” “Um okay.See you soon.” At this point I was absolutely panicked.I didn’t get it, he was so into me that weekend, what could have possibly changed so dramatically?I called a few friends to tell them what had just happened and they couldn’t help but laugh at the sheer awfulness and hilarious awkwardness of it all.It’s just been a really crazy week, but I should have called.” I smiled, “No worries, it’s been a busy week for me too,” cool as a cucumber.