Progressively, alcoholism blurs every line and impacts every interaction, every relationship, every part of the alcoholic’s world.Putting blinders on a horse leaves it with no peripheral vision – such is the worldview of the alcoholic.
Alcoholics are the very best liars because they are able to use rationalization and justification to convince themselves that a lie is truth. They are not aware that they are, if you’ll pardon the term – mind screwing themselves.
Alcoholics adopt a language that facilitates lying in a way that sounds very well intentioned.
Friends and family of active alcoholics ask me to explain how the alcoholic thinks.
I am happy to share what I have learned after we establish what their motives are.
To observe their behavior is to conclude a belief that the world must owe them something.
The active alcoholic wallows in self-pity and concludes that they are a victim of life.
Alcoholics develop what counselors call “an external locus of control.” Progressively, everything is someone else’s fault.
If their job is going poorly it’s because their boss hates them.
As they demand more from the world they expect less and less from themselves.