Especially if you're a woman, you have the useful gift of eventually finding attractive a man who makes you feel good, regardless of how good he actually looks. Have you noticed how much sheer hatred and incivility there is online?
Ladies -- nod if you've ever ended up dating a guy whom you initially thought was kind of a troll, and had a fabulous time anyway. Under the mask of e-anonymity, people have no compunctions about flaming one another with scathing remarks that they would never dare deliver in person.
Although online dating sites and mobile apps have changed how people date, the fact that dangerous people still exist has not. Pleasant Police Department has dealt with two instances of criminal sexual conduct (CSC) as a result of people who met using a social media site or dating application.
The most recent incident involved a female student from Central Michigan University who was sexually assaulted after meeting up with a man she met on the mobile dating app Tinder.
A man who would never be ignored in person can be blown off hundreds of times online.
And, as the authors of the book Freakonomics pointed out, over 90 percent of men on dating sites never end up meeting a woman.
Studies show that we sense immune compatibility through smell -- one way in which evolution decides whether two people should have kids together or not. If she's receptive, the conversation moves to email after a few exchanges.
This compatibility is vital to the viability of offspring, so it's bypassed at our peril. So when you go online, you're subverting a process that has worked just fine for propagating the human species for the past 3 million years. You can waste a lot of time online chasing what you don't want. If her interest continues, they speak on the phone, and begin to plan a meeting.Mirror neurons are the physiological basis for compassion, and they're simply not activated in online interaction.As a result, it becomes easy to dismiss summarily a message that an admirer has invested time, effort and emotion to craft in fervent hopes of gaining your attention.You also get a fair amount of a person's writing, which has had no part in the eons of evolution of mate selection.Most important of the missing signals may very well be smell, which some scientists believe underlies most of male-female attraction -- what literally constitutes sexual chemistry.The problem with online dating is that it puts right up front and center a whole bunch of extraneous information that could derail a potentially lovely relationship. Why is there such a discrepancy between online and in-person behavior?