“As much as it can hurt me, being allowed to participate in the grieving process to an extent by facilitating these opportunities allows me to not be ignored,” she says.“Otherwise, when grieving happens, I don’t exist.” Lara shares her thoughts and frustrations in an online support group for women like her—the wives and girlfriends of widowers, or WOWs and GOWs as they call themselves.
“I felt awful for having this feeling that I needed to date, but it turns out this feeling is pretty normal.” “You’ll see widowers who date months or even weeks after their wife dies.
It’s like they go out there and say, ‘Oh, you’re pretty. ’ They end up getting into relationships they aren’t ready for.” Lara met Dave online through a networking site.
The woman has big eyes, a strong chin and, as Lara describes, a “million-dollar smile.” Lara knows her face well—there are images of her throughout the house she shares with her husband, Dave, and their four kids.
Photographs placed in the rooms of the three oldest children.
He was 26 when his first wife took her own life while she was seven months pregnant.
“I started dating five months after she died,” Keogh says.
Women who are swimming in a massive gray area with very few resources to guide them.
Women immersed in a world of grief that is not their own. “It’s so conflicting, it makes my head spin,” says Rachel, a 42-year-old professional who has been dating a widower for three years.
Another woman married a widower who insisted on trying to relive his favorite memories with his late wife by taking her to the same restaurants they loved, dancing with her at the same nightspots and planning the same beach vacations.