I’d like to note here that I don’t live in London, and so the dating experiences of Black women there may be different to those who live outside the capital.I live in a fairly large city, Bristol, and seeing White women with Black men is just as common as seeing White men with White women.
However, I often read American blogs that advise Black women to go to Europe as it is more likely that they’ll find love with a slight irritation – dating non-Black men here is certainly no easier than anywhere else.
Couple this with the growing Western trend of many Black men seeking to date and mate with women of any other ethnicity except their own and the general invisibility of Black women in the media (when we are represented, we’re aggressive, unfeminine and not the object of any attraction) and you’ll find that Black women in the UK are facing the same conundrum as our sisters across the Atlantic.
However, the proportion of Black men in the UK dating non-Black women eclipses that of Black women doing the same.
Their reasons for not dating Black women echo the ubiquitous ‘’they have horrible hair and a bad attitude’’ or ‘‘I’m simply not attracted to them’’.
It seems that many Black women feel that it is our responsibility to preserve the Black community. Surely, a shared connection, chemistry and interests (which is so hard to find) are more important than having to explain to a man how a weave is sown in?
After realising that White men probably won’t walk up to me in the street and ask for a date, I tried internet dating on and off for a couple of years, and admittedly over 90% of the emails I received were from White men.By: Carla Ford Have you ever considered if you lived in the UK, would men of others races be more openly receptive in showing their attraction towards Black women?The eccentric, open-minded and tolerant reputation of the British is, in general, accurate.On the other hand, Jem, a fellow Teacher disagrees slightly with Ally and says that like me she isn’t short of attention from Black men, but they aren’t on our wavelength in terms of education, job or outlook.Like many other sisters I know, Jem would rather be in a relationship with a Black man, but realises that she may be waiting forever if she rules out everyone else.Black men in Bristol don’t give us the time of day.