Women appreciate men who make the first move, but if she’s legitimately interested, she will reach out in due time.
“There should be a balance of communication initiation by both parties if there is truly attraction and mutual interest,” says Barbie Adler, founder and president of Selective Search, a professional matchmaking service.
If you’re like most couples, she’s probably the one who manages your social calendar—and you’re probably fine with this.
But you shouldn’t be giving up time with your friends for time with hers (or vice-versa).
She seems like an awesome girl: She loves football, beer, and video games.
And she has a ton of guy friends—which is totally fine—but no girlfriends, because she “just doesn’t get along with girls,” or “girls think she’s a threat.” Give me a break. “A worthy partner has friends of both genders because she’s a good friend,” Clark says.
“And, obviously, her ability to be a friend is a good indicator of her ability to be a partner.” She doesn’t have to be after your money to be a ‘gold digger,’ or someone who wants to take advantage of you, Clark says.
“If you feel like there is some unspoken quota of gestures or behaviors you must meet to win her affection, she’s not really interested in you,” Clark explains.Sharing some relationship milestones and happy moments with your social network is expected—and can even indicate a comfortable relationship—but if she’s more interested in looking perfect on Instagram than hanging out with you in real life, you have a problem.“Your partner should know you love them from how they feel when they’re with you—not what they see on Facebook,” Clark says.She might not love your buddies, but if she refuses to hang out with them or let you hang out with them, you’re the one who will suffer, Clark says.Some jealousy is understandable—but that doesn’t make it cute.“When there is always some other person, some event, some commitment that is taking up more of her time, that is a clear indication that you are not as high on her priority list.” It’s bad enough to hear about one ex-file, but an entire encyclopedia worth of info? “This means that she has not grieved him, and you are in danger of being the rebound boyfriend,” says Todd Creager, a licensed marriage and family therapist.