Most women who date a dad would like to know that their kids like them.
Some go to great lengths to sway the kids towards them. Their affection is not easily won – and it certainly cannot be bought.
Don’t be in too much of a rush to meet his kids – get to know him first.
Even if he wants to get the kids involved in your life, try to delay this process.
You can read Today we have a blended family of four.
Not long ago, I had a household of 2 - just my daughter and me.
Remember that the man isn’t the only one affected by the divorce – the kids are too. Give him time to balance being a dad and a date: For many men, the experience of dating while being dads is very new. When I dated, that was the exception – not the rule.
When someone new comes into the picture, they can easily resent that person because they view her as a replacement for their mom in their dad’s life. They’ve gone from simply focusing on their household and careers to now also focusing on a new relationship. I had to learn to make someone feel special while having my primary focus on my daughter.
Some women feel as if the man has a choice – either the kids or them.
So instead of being open and warm, they become withdrawn and cold as they meet the kids.
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