To me, bald doesnt automatically equate unattractiveness, nor does a couple of extra pounds.
In fact, now that Im looking for more than a cute boyfriend, I steer clear of anyone who looks like they couldve walked out of a glossy magazine ad.
Why do dating experts for men teach them how to get the hottest women possible?
So, Tia-Maria, why do dating experts tell men how to get the hottest women possible? What these men rarely consider is that the hot girl might also be emotionally bankrupt, unintelligent, flaky, humorless, and lack basic human empathy. Men’s repeated refrain: “I can’t help what I’m attracted to.” Who do we blame for this? And where does this realization leave you, Tia-Maria? And rightfully concerned that you’re going to be overlooked.
Men, of course, but there’s more than enough responsibility to go around. Despite my shallow man diatribe, please bear in mind that there is a lid for every pot. Most women don’t qualify as “hot” in the Maxim sense, and yet they still get married.
This original partner was a noted matchmaker who brought a certain credibility to my pet project – she’s experienced in her field, she’s telegenic, she knows plenty about single people, etc.
One of the first chapters I completed was called “The Beauty Myth Is Not a Myth.” It didn’t necessarily debunk Naomi Wolf’s seminal work, but it did establish one very important concept that women need to understand: Men are as shallow as advertised.
Nor am I suggesting that men don’t have the ability to love and accept any physical imperfections. And after years of doing this, I’m still flabbergasted that no matter how unattractive a man is – no matter how little hair is on his head, or how much on his back – he STILL has the same twenty-something supermodels on his favorites list as if he was Colin Farrell.
Yes, Shallow Hal lives – and I believe he lives in a majority of American men. And women who are 5s are often left out in the cold, at least in L.
But if you’re under the illusion that they grow on trees, it’s time to wake up and smell the Kiehl’s anti-aging lotion. Dating experts try to sell products by connecting with readers’ basest wishes.
The number of guys who are “above” the whole looks thing may fill a classroom, but not a stadium, and definitely not a big enough portion of the male population to suggest any type of trend. And for men, the holy grail is to be able to get the hot girl. Validated in your opinion that men are impossibly shallow.
After all, women buy into the Beauty Myth just as much as men do. The real struggle is in keeping a healthy perspective and a positive attitude until you find the right fit.
Advertising and media saturation reinforce the image of perfect bodies and skin, and women spend thousands of dollars each year striving for an impossible standard. So don’t worry about what you can’t control (men); instead, take care of what you can control (yourself).
A., where I live…If anybody should be judged harshly, it’s men for refusing to let women age gracefully.