Guys who described themselves as unsure wanted to be seduced, wanted me to be unable to resist them, wanted me to take loud and voluble pleasure in the details of their bodies. I’m just saying most of them sure seemed to get off to having phone sex with another man, which is, not joking, not the same thing.
I offer this knowledge for the public good.)More than anything, guys wanted to feel wanted. Awful lot of closeted guys in this country If I had a nickel for every call that started out “My girlfriend doesn’t know I call these lines”… Often it felt a bit obligatory, as though they were saying to themselves, “Well, I did call this phone sex line.
Better have phone sex, that’s what it says on the label.” That was fine with me; given what always happened after they shot their load, I’d just as soon put that part off.
Most guys, though, it’s just a lack of enthusiasm, a fast emotional comedown, a rapid closing of browser tabs.
And with phone sex, the moment you come, you suddenly remember how much you’re paying per minute for this.
” Sometimes the answer is “I’m in bed with someone I love and that’s awesome” but sometimes it’s “I’m paying five bucks a minute for a voice that’s doing a half-decent job of not sounding bored.” You’d hang up too.3.
Female callers are solid gold The previous point notwithstanding, nature has blessed many of her children with the ability to get off and yet keep going. Female callers to male phone sex lines are rare but precious, and they were always my favorites.
Male orgasmic remorse is a thing Many men have written about the experience of orgasmic remorse, where you’re wildly enthusiastic about whatever’s getting you off, right up until you come, at which point your enthusiasm vanishes instantly.
Sometimes it’s instantly replaced by shame or guilt, in guys who feel bad about what they were enjoying.
the key phrases people respond to are fairly obvious with a little practice.
In a way, it has as much in common with cold reading as improv; I learned to take my cues from the signals guys didn’t know they were sending.
They wanted to lay bare a part of themselves that they couldn’t show anyone else, and be told it was okay.